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A Circle of Love…and Friends

My sister, Maxeen, has left us to be with the Lord. She leaves behind a family that thinks of her often and misses her terribly. As part of my grief process, I sometimes go down to her old room in our basement and sit, mentally putting the room back the way it was when she was with us: The bookshelf here; the hope chest over there, and of course she sitting there on her bed, hands folded on her lap watching the Hallmark Channel. 

All of that is changed, now.  Continue reading A Circle of Love…and Friends

Maxeen (Mayhew) Tuggle 1940-2012

Maxeen and niece, Jenna Thompson earlier in 2012.

Maxeen passed away at home on Tuesday, June 26, 2012 at 6:27 AM. For her last three weeks with us she lived on the love of friends and family who visited to say good-bye and share precious moments. Maxeen was preceded in death by her son, Jeff Tuggle, and leaves behind her son, Marc Tuggle; her daughter-in-law Dawn Adams; grandchildren, Lindsey Gill and Isaiah Adams; her brother and sister-in-law, Dan and Jody Mayhew with whom she lived; nieces Jenna Thompson and Corrie Albertson; nephew Caleb Mayhew; and many friends including her gang of 54 years, “the get-together girls,” and friends & family from her home town of Kewanee, Il.

Maxeen spent the first 17 years of her life in Kewanee. From those years came life-long friendships and memories of mid-west life; visits to the farms of aunts and uncles and summer days playing with cousins; and a group of childhood friends with whom she maintained life-long contact. 

She came to Portland in 1957. After high school, she married and began a family, two sons, Jeff and Marc who she raised as a single mom from their early teens.

During those years she demonstrated remarkable courage and determination as she worked her way up from relatively menial work at a local fireplace equipment supplier to the position of buyer for the company. Later she took her skills to a restaurant supply company from which she retired. She did all of these things while maintaining a close relationship with her sons, their friends and eventual families . 

Her passion was her children. Her greatest sorrow was the loss of her eldest son at age 33 to cancer. She bore the sorrow bravely, but continually. Even as she remained a compassionate and devoted mother to Marc, her youngest son and to Jeff’s family.

Her greatest joy was when she was with younger people, especially her grandchildren, to whom she was always available. Moreover, she sought out opportunities to care for babies and children at Crossroads Church in Portland where she was a member and at Montavilla Baptist Church where she provided patient and enthusiastic care during the congregation’s mid-week Bible study.

Maxeen’s creativity found many outlets. Painting, stained glass, sewing and decorating all came to life at the touch of her hands. For a time she even used her considerable sewing skill to assist Marc in his work as a marine outfitter and boat mechanic.

For nearly ten years, she shared the household of her brother and sister-in-law, Dan and Jody Mayhew, where she is sorely missed. Her compassion and love has touched us all deeply and continues to enrich our lives. We eagerly anticipate the future reunion that awaits us. In the mean time we grieve her loss and rejoice in her love.

In lieu of flowers, remembrances may be given in her name to the Crossroads Church Food Pantry where she volunteered for many years. 

Here are some other photos of her life (I’ll add a few more in the next few days): 

The Kewanee Years ~~~ Family Years ~~~ More Recent


Remembering is when thoughts drift together into,
And most important of all…How?
How did it happen?

I’ve searched the net to find out where this little poem came from. I know it’s not original with me. It came, if I recall, from a long-play recording of poetry by Carl Sandburg, although I don’t believe it is his. I think, rather, it was attributed to his mother — still, I wouldn’t bet on it. I wouldn’t bet on the accuracy of my recollection of it, either. So, call it a paraphrase of a poem that I once heard and committed to imperfect memory. 

I think of it now because my sister’s life is evaporating before our eyes like a puddle in the sun. Jody and I keep a sober vigil, waiting for Maxeen’s inevitable transport from this world to the next. And in the waiting, I sit with my sister and remember the ‘who,’ the ‘what,’ the ‘where’ and ‘when’ of her life and mine. We remember the all important ‘how’ it happened.

Passing the time with photographs of people and places that we both remember, I realize that it is not just one person that is dying, it is a community. Those people and places known to no one but she and I will soon be known only by me. They will be treasured in only one heart, and eventually, the remembering will cease. Who? What? When? Where? How? Will swirl away like fallen leaves.

In our home town, on the street  where I spent my first seven years and Maxeen her first 17, autumn was a mystical time. I remember it as a kind of festival. The men would rake leaves that drifted from the brooding maples that lined McKinley Avenue.  The children would push them into long ridges — imaginary walls of make-believe houses in which unfolded pretend lives — until a grown-up, with his rake, would pull the leaves over the curb into the street and set them afire. The smoke would rise silently and touch the branches where the leaves had grown and lived, and then, like a fragrant memory, drift skyward and be gone.